Pathetic Tactics of a College Guy

Men are adults who sometimes act like dogs, young men are dogs, and boys are puppies.

The guys you’re meeting in college fall under the category of young men: dogs. This is not to disrespect or denounce men, young men either, but I’m here. I see it. And by George I’m blogging about it.

Pathetic Tactics of a College Guy:

1.      Roll up to the scene with his ceiling meaning, i.e.: attempting to woo you with his lack of charm and severely acne covered face. He calls you “beautiful,” says all the right things…to you and YOUR friends because getting in good with the females you surround yourself with only makes for better standings when all the girls gossip about him later. 
2.    Meet the boys. Now it’s time for you to meet his crew, so now they too can gossip but now about you and pretty much let him know whether or not you’re worthy his time, and anatomy. Usually done in a causal setting like a party, perhaps a late night dinner, or an evening of smoking/drinking. Whatever your vice or scene he wants his boys okay…unless you’re going to be the fuck buddy he hits and then forces to leave at 3am before sunrise.
3. Sleepover PG-13 addition. You've moved up to a sleepover; but usually you don’t come over under the premise of a sleepover but this night, suddenly he wants deep conversation…intellectual or otherwise. He wants to “know” the girl he’s been fawning after (LOL) who you are, your moral code, which usually will be a good indicator of how far you’re willing to go sexually too. You hang with the guys again, as they get a better view of you in a better lit room, perhaps you even bring over some girlfriends to even out the playing field and offer some comfort so you’re not totally this new guy. And after all this conversation, and possibly food if he has some, I mean damn at least some water, it has suddenly become too late for you to go home and he’s simply too god awful tired to walk you home [insert body in bed]. “You can sleep here tonight.” The fatal words that solidify your location for the next several hours. He’ll be sweet and nice, and offer you half his bed, a shirt to sleep in, and a toilet to piss in. After all it’s just two friends sleeping in a bed together…
4. The OFFICIAL sleepover. Now he has officially invited you to his place of residence, otherwise known as a 12’x12’ dorm room. Odds are he’s gotten too ballsy to even pick you up from your dormitory hall and you make the trek alone. You get there and he seems more douchbaggier than
   
   ever, he’s under the impression he’s going to get some tonight, and in some cases he will. He’ll attempt to entertain you with some mindless, mundane activity, like tv before taking it to the bedroom. Some more mindless gibberish will come out his loose lips and before you know it he’s putting on the moves fast and furiously. Kissing, making out, he’ll probably want to be orally copulated, which probably won’t be given in return, and I mean if he can get a home run he’ll try it too! But odds are the buck will stop at his own satisfaction and he’ll proceed to pass out after his physical expression of pleasure. 
5. The OFFICIAL sleepover: R rated addition. Now this is the           second option within the OFFICIAL  sleepover. After oral is received by the male participant, he might be ready for the main course.  (Oral was just an appetizer, the Hors d’oeuvre if you will) Anyways he goes in for the catch and hopefully has some form of protection, some guys are less inclined to wear any, and other guys actually realize their in college to get a degree not bring home a bouncing bundle of unwarranted and undesired bliss. But let the in flagrante delicto ensue, and after the humping, groaning, and moaning, it’s over, and he’ll  proceed to pass out after his physical expression of pleasure. Depending on how good it was, this  action might happen a few more times on different occasions before he deems you boring and the process will start all over again with another unknowing participant. Although some females know exactly what their getting into others, usually freshman claim they have an understanding of the situation but being in a dark room within such tight proximity and hard objects around soon realize they had a very distorted understanding of the situation they had dug themselves into.

And that in a nut shell is the tactics young men will use in an attempt to increase their “body” count
Again this is an opinion of my own, based off experiences I've observed and witnessed, so don’t hate me!

Modern Day Feminism

Firstly I wanted to give thanks to my viewers and those following! We reached over 100 views just before the first week anniversary! This is a huge accomplishment for me and it’s a true testament to myself, that what I’m doing is worth it.  

I had been thinking about how this blog metastasized into this unique channel to discuss feminism and the thought occurred: Just what is modern day feminism? Or who are modern day feminists? 

Mega music star Beyoncé used the terminology in a recent interview:

Beyoncé is a singer, actress, businesswoman and mother, and in a new interview, the multi-talented 31-year-old calls herself a "modern-day feminist." "I do believe in equality. Why do you have to choose what type of woman you are?" she (Beyoncé) told the British version of Vogue.

http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/beyonce-calls-herself-a-modern-day-feminist-20130403#ixzz2jQSyZESO

But I questioned, do I even consider Beyonce to be a modern day feminist, or was that her own ill chose label..

In my last post I discussed the transformation feminism or the symbols and individuals that represent the ideology have transformed, and what it currently is for my generation. Feminism does have an overarching definition but throughout time, like all things it has evolved into three waves. But I haven’t truly taken the time to give fair discussion to what modern day feminism is, and what that phrasing incorporates that differentiates from good ole’ feminism.

I sort of see feminism as two ways in this current day and age. You’re standard stuck up white, baton-up-her-ass, old woman that sort of embodies old feminism but might allow some components of modern feminism in her thought process. 

And then you have the bitchin, fairly rude, sexy, I- don’t-need-no-man-don’t-want-no-man, modern day feminist who wants to debate and fight you on every bloody point they find to be right. I’m not saying this is the only modern day feminist you’ll find but a large portion of women seem to have taken the ideologies of feminism and transformed it into this taking up of arms, and bickering of “Oh I don’t need a man.” “Fuck patriarchy.” Or the lovely hashtag that I've noticed in passing other modern day feminist blogs…#killallmen. I wish I could say I was lying but feel free to search the hashtag and shake your head in disgust of these particular individuals.

That’s simply never what feminism was about; whether it is modern day feminism or classical; it’s all defined the same as the upliftment and power of women, NOT at the expense of degrading men.  Yes we were originally fighting oppression that was generated at the hands of men but that doesn't mean we start degrading and disrespecting in return.

The movement was started, at least in the Western world out of women’s suffrage; simply trying to get small rights like: women having reproductive rights instead of producing children every 9 months, being able to actually go to the police and not get kicked out on their ass when they explain to authorities that there spouse just beat or sexually assaulted them. (Both topics still needing severe ratification; 1 in 4 women have and will experience domestic violence usually at the hands of a spouse or intimate partner. Furthermore many countries still don’t recognize spousal/marital rape as actual rape.)  I mean arguably that’s where most feminist movements throughout the world regardless of region start; women attempting to get control of their own bodies; of their body’s reproduction and receive some level of respect.

I think the bigger issue at hand is what are feminist of today, modern day feminist fighting for? What is there cause exactly? Because all I notice is a whole bunch of arguing on social media sites like Facebook and Twitter, about topics of no merit, like why women shouldn't make sandwiches anymore. It’s not about any unity or coming togetherness and it leaves me questioning what kind of feminist I fall under; by default I’m in the third wave (feminism is sectioned off in three waves, identifying time periods and struggles throughout) but do I truly want to be classified as a modern day feminist?

I’m not here to fight to the death about my opinion; I’m simply here to offer it. To discuss women’s worth, and if along the way I can offer a glimmer of light or finally allow a woman to realize she’s more than her lady parts, that’s great too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HiqmZLOaD8o

Team Women

Team Humanity

Women

So I was discussing with a friend this blog; its birth and how it had begun.

Frankly it was a realization of female power based on the anatomy we are inherited. She told me it was a contradiction due to the fact that I choose to use the word pussy.

Pussy is granted a very crass word, but it isn't meant to degrade women in any way, shape, or form. And Vagina Power just didn't have the same twang. ..well not to me.

As a woman you’re power is hardly subjected to your lady parts; its power found all throughout us as individuals. What makes women powerful?  

The ability to put your all into everything and keep from complaining. Going after what you want in life.

Respecting yourself and others; realizing your worth and not thinking the buck stops between your legs.

Speaking up against wrong doing, speaking up for you; for yourself.

The inspiration you fuel in other women around you. I’m not saying, “Oh you need to be the next Oprah..” Inspiration can be right within in your home to the daughters and sons those of us raise. To the girl down the street or a young girl who doesn’t have an inspirational focus.

At the end of the day making a change in your life; in your family; in your community; in our world. And that will only help to enhance your own life. Powerful women fill this world; recognition is sadly few and far in between but it doesn't negate the fact that we inhabit this world. 

This blog was designed to discuss the power aspect we harbor, and I could easily create a contrasting blog about the power men have in regards to women, or other men if that happens to be the case.

Women are powerful and worth it. Not because of anatomy, because of everything they do; everything they represent.  But their anatomy does help the cause; a super power if you will. SO this blog isn't designed to disrespect any woman, if anything it’s an avenue for feminist power to be heard and perhaps seen from a perspective that is easier for my demographic to understand.

Feminism of today, for my generation tends to be masked in this stuck up, middle aged, graying, white skinned, baton up her ass type woman, and that doesn't have to be the case. Feminism is advocacy of rights for every and all women. We don’t have a Rosie the Riveter of my generation; she’s just a figure in a textbook.

 Sadly girls have other things, (I find it quite difficult to use the word woman, or female for some of these over publicized individuals) anyway these people are just over sexualized Barbies who use their anatomy as the premise for their entire cause. Whether it is music, acting, dancing; all three..even though most of these celebrities can’t execute one much less all three. Names aren't necessary as I’m sure we all know some so called female celebrity that gives a bad name to women anywhere.

I am a woman. And I love women. I respect women.

#feminism

 

This does not mean I hate my male readers lol, it's a joke!! :)

https://soundcloud.com/purplepr/beyonce-run-the-world-girls

Well women, not girls...but you get the gist! 

When Did you Realize the Power of Pussy?

After the last post I questioned when I truly realized the power of pussy. The power of female anatomy.

I think I was probably 12, it was fifth grade. There was this girl named Briana who, for her age incredibly well developed, even I envied her. Puberty was doing her a ton of favors. Anyways she wasn't the brightest intellectually but apparently that wasn't too much of an issue either. With her snug little Abercrombie top she strode through the class to little Peter so and so. A male of distinct lack of physical appearance and popularity was simply flabbergasted to even be conversing with her. We had some silly diorama assignment due, we all had to make a germ; I remember that. I was an infectious disease specialist; I made a 3 dimensional bacteria!(Shout out to my mom, lol she has amazing abilities with clay)

Within about five minutes of the one sided conversation that was simply Briana's motormouth going nonstop while Peter sat stupefied, she had someone to not only be her partner but execute the entire project.

Like this girl was 12. How did she even have an understanding of what she was doing?

I questioned what abilities she possessed to even achieve such a rapid and effective response.

That's when I knew we as girls at the time; now women had super powers. Lol the overstatement of the year? I think not

While there is a dual relationship to this situation, males do own their own power; penis power.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=bqg_ceFM30I
If you didn't already watch this video from my last post please do.

Predator mode!!!

Its a definitely a dual language if you will; but I feel as though women realize their inherited power before their male counterparts. I'm sure Briana has been making a killing through life utilizing her power(s), I'm not exactly sure how beneficial that will be to her life on a whole, but for now and until then I suppose she'll use what she has to the best of her ability~ 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q7kxTPbB4S4

Lol I had too.
Iggy Pop

The Power of Pussy

This blog was born out of, believe it or not a lyric from a rap song.

Drake's latest album, Nothing Was the Same has been an enjoyable listen for myself, and his lyrical content has been more truthful, honest, and blunt then ever before. Finally coming into his own as a seasoned rapper, I think he's come to realize he can drop relevant, truthful lines because he's got it like that now. The fans, the fame, the money. Fresh out the gate, most artists don't want to step on toes, or make their presence known at the expense of other artists, but after a point of continued success you now have that right in a sense to come out of your shell, drop the shit that you've always wanted too, and not be phased by the backlash, because you're at that level, because you've attained everything you were trying too which was the fans, the fame, and the money.

Anyways this blog isn't dedicated to Drake, although I'm thinking about it know that I've started writing about him a bit lol, but the lyric came from the song, Connect, a slow tempo discussion of a toxic relationship with a female he simply can't move himself to leave, with the repetitive use of the word swangin discussing his movement back and forth to this female's place of habitation. (The word swangin has a few other meanings within the song as well) Moving on, the one line that would continuously stick out each time I would listen to this song was:

"She just wanna run around the city and make memories
That she can barely remember
And I'd allow her, talk about pussy power
She just wanna run over my feelings
Like she drinking and driving in an 18 wheeler
And I'd allow her, talk about pussy power"

As I continued to listen to the song, rehearing the lyrics time and time again, the words were further ingrained in my brain. ...talk about pussy power 

Pussy has power.

I know that, but it wasn't anything I'd ever taken the time to truly decipher. No doubt women had control over men, and in certain cases women due to their anatomy, and pussy power has been a career for women since the beginning of time.(There were prostitutes in Ancient Greece, believe it or not, it was a prominent and lucrative business since then.)

Pussy has power, and I think this blog will be a nice avenue to discussion,story tell, and above all else respect and praise the power of pussy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=bqg_ceFM30I

I figured this would be a nice place to start, aha.